Who Am I?
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Just the other day I met a lovely woman in a wheelchair. My first instinct was to smile but then I looked down, only to see that this kindly older lady was missing part of her limb. She was a below knee amputee.
She was being pushed around the store by a younger man, a caretaker, in her wheelchair when she noticed me and my prosthesis. She asked him to back up and push her towards me to talk about being an amputee.
Her smile showed she was a fighter. She also informed me it has been 2 years since her amputation, and now she was dealing with cancer. But still she smiled!
I knew that she was someone I wanted to know.
We talked for a bit, I told her we’d love to have her on our women’s chat groups and I made sure she had my name written down before we parted ways. She was struggling with the phantom pains, something I know all too much about. We had that in common and our connection was amazing and immediate.
Before I chose amputation I had been fighting through ten surgeries in 5 years, plus a blood clot, before deciding on amputation.
I had 4 months to wait from the time I scheduled my amputation til the surgery, and in those 4 months I went thru every emotion know to humans. I was a wreck trying to navigate something so surreal and on my own.
That is, until I leaned into my Christian faith. I had met a nice pastor during my time in PT, as he was getting his shoulder injury worked on by my PT on many of the days I was there. We talked, I reflected, then on my birthday (which feel during my wait time) I decided to re-baptize myself at this pastor’s church, which I started going to on Saturday evenings, just a month before. I needed to find connections, I need to find God in all of this mess I called my life.
What I found, while attending the Saturday evening services, was amazing people who understood and stood with me during this time.
I sat down, on campus, with this pastor and we talked about life in general. Afterwards, when I got back to my car I had a life-altering epiphany, this whole thing, this journey I was on, was God’s plan for me. I now, looking back, could see his fingerprints on it all!
I felt such a burden lifted from me at that point, and I can honestly say, I have never looked back.
I am embracing every high and low for what it’s worth, and I know it is for my own good and all these moments were meant to build me up for something else. My mindset got positive. My view of my future became positive and my fears were muted.
When I connected with this lady the other day, I saw God working again, reminding me why He chose me for this journey. I connected in a way that helped and brought joy to this new friend of mine, and I walked away feeling joyful and fulfilled once again.
Connections; we, as humans, were created for connecting with one another and with the world around us. This gives us hope and joy, it fills us with purpose and passion for our life we are living, despite the circumstances.
This week I want you to give it a try.
If you have been staying at home, or are stuck at home find a way to get out.
If you can’t get out then find another way to connect with people. Find a virtual chat room, like the one I have each Wednesday, or call a friend or family member. Reach outside of your own life and find out about someone else’s.
When we connect either physically or verbally with someone else we gain perspective and can step back from what is disabling us.
It’s never going to be a good outcome if you are at home only thinking about your own problems and issues. That is isolating and can destroy you, mentally and physically. You need to branch out and see that you are not alone in suffering or struggles, we all have them, day to day and even from hour to hour.
Staying secluded isn’t helpful and is hard to lift yourself out of, we aren’t meant to go it alone. Humans were built for connection.
This week make some real connections with others and watch your perspective change and watch your struggles lessen, even if only for those moments you are with someone.
Listen to someone and what they are going through. No need to give advice, sometimes we just need to feel heard.
And remember, everyone is going through something, and each moment is meant to build you up and strengthen you for what’s to come.
Are you preparing for your future successes?
Are you strengthening your resolve and character?
You were built with a warrior inside of you, we each were. It’s time to let that warrior out and fight for the life you want, the life you crave. Don’t allow yourself to be fooled that it won’t get better, your mindset matters, and you WILL find the strength needed to achieve your goals.
You are a Warrior! Believe it!
Have a blessed week ahead, and until next time,
Be Healthy,
Be Happy,
Be YOU!!
Much love,
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Nothing in life that’s worth achieving is going to come easy. Working toward a goal, putting your best foot forward and sweating through it makes achieving it all the more sweet.
Why would becoming an amputee be anything different?
If you were active before your amputation, then you know what can be done with a lot of work, grit, and determination.
It won’t be easy. It’ll test your resolve MANY times, but, when you get to the goal you set for yourself, you will feel such a sense of excitement and joy like you’ve never felt!
Don’t worry about what others are doing or achieving. Remember that comparison is the thief of joy.
You focus on you! Do what you can do now, and each day try to be better than the last. The next thing you’ll realize is how far you’ve come since you started.
One step at a time has been my mantra since my amputation. I can’t look at the big picture or I’ll get nervous or doubt what I’m capable of. Instead I focus on putting one foot down at a time, at my pace, and what I can do in this moment. And each ,moment is different. Today I might be whipping around the neighborhood, feeling confident and without pain, and then tomorrow I could be struggling with just walking slowly around my home.
All you can do, is work hard with what you have been given each day, but if you can honestly say that you gave it your all then I promise that you will see strides at reaching your goals.
One step at a time is meant to be metaphorical, and also very literal, for us amputees. Don’t think about walking all day in your prosthesis when you get up, and don’t just tell yourself that you’ll put it on for a little bit or later today. Put it on with the mindset that you’ll wear it for all you can, however long that will be today, knowing that each day brings its own struggles and accomplishments, but you don’t know what kind of day it will be until you are in the midst of it.
Mindset matters!
What you tell yourself first thing in the morning is how your day will go. When I wake up, I know I will put my leg on first then go through my day. Somedays I cannot get to the gym because it hurts too much so I do what I can at home, keeping it on, and building my tolerance up for wearing it. Other days, I put it on and get a burst of energy and hike 4 to 5 miles without even thinking about it.
Mindset matters and what you tell yourself will be the direction your mind takes, and what your body believes.
Always get moving with your best intentions and your heart and mind in the most positive place you can be and then see how your day unfolds. One step at a time.
This week, it is pretty straight forward.
This week I want you to remember to keep speaking positivity to yourself.
Write down “ONE STEP AT A TIME” on post it notes and place them in places you spend a lot of time in and around your house to remind yourself to take your goals and your actual steps at YOUR pace and ONE AT A TIME.
Set a goal. Wherever you are right now physically, mentally, and based on your weather and location and decide what it will take each day to break it down and work towards it at your pace.
You can achieve anything you put your mind to if you set mini goals for yourself, or stepping stones to that goal. Make the steps small enough to find success, and big enough to challenge yourself.
And then watch yourself break the barriers that you thought were there because of your circumstance.
I believe in you! I believe we are all born to fight for what we want and desire. THAT is a Warrior mentality.
So, rise up warriors, and sieze this moment. You are not broken, or weak, or disabled. You are a warrior of epic proportions.
Get after your goals and dreams today, ONE STEP AT A TIME!!
Have a beautifully blessed week and as always, until next time,
Be Healthy,
Be Happy,
Be YOU!!!
Much love,
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Life as an amputee is already hard enough just learning to live without a limb that, for most of us, we were born with. However, what you don’t know is the little things, the minutia of everyday tasks that can sometimes be enough to halt you in your tracks.
I got an interesting question the other day, one I haven’t been asked before: “How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?”
I realized, based on that question, that many people wonder about our “secret” lives behind closed doors. How do we sleep, bath, get ready, change clothes, etc is a mystery for most people.
First off, please realize that I choose to do the things I do, therefore I choose a more hectic and demanding path each day. That is my choice, but I chose amputation so I could live a full and healthy life.
Notice the difference in clothes and shoes for each of these activities that I absolutely love to do. A simple change of clothes is absolutely exhausting for me, and I must motivate myself even more to do them. I must WANT it, each day.
Today I want to share with you MY struggles every morning. Yes, struggles. It isn’t easy getting ready for the days I set up for myself which may include, gym time, horse time, hiking, grocery shopping, cleaning the house, going out with friends and date nights with my hubby. What you may not understand is that many of those tasks take different clothing and shoes, not to mention showering midday for a date so you don’t smell like a horse.
Join me today as I take you through the challenges of getting ready as an above knee amputee using a skin fit socket, how I streamline my morning routine, what I take with me to change clothes midday, and how I handle the energy it takes just to get ready.
I wished I could tell you that it’s easy everyday, but it’s not, and that’s my choice. I want to workout or hike, I want to get dirty working with horses, and with each of those daily activities I make myself work hard everyday to be able to enjoy them.
I think it needs to be said that if you want something bad enough then you are willing to go the extra mile, well, my extra mile means pushing myself physically each day, in just getting ready.
This week I would tell you that if you are struggling with getting motivated each morning when you wake, or you are dreading getting ready to take on the day then start the night before.
Create, even if only in your mind, a schedule of events that you WANT to accomplish the next day and see yourself doing them, visualize accomplishing the tasks and what you will need to complete them. I go to bed this way every night so in the morning I have direction. Without it the days fly by and nothing gets done.
Also, if you struggle with energy make sure you are fueling your body correctly and enough. We use more energy than the two loggers so we need to add in more nutrition to our daily intake. Don’t skimp. I did after the holidays and I was always lacking energy, which destroyed my motivation.
Setting yourself up for success is up to you. Start today with visualizing what you want to do and accomplish every night before bed and make sure you are fueling your body to work hard, because it is.
Have grace with yourself.
Know when to push and when your body needs a break.
You are a warrior and capable of doing great things!
Believe it!
And as always,
Be Healthy,
Be Happy,
Be YOU!!
Much love,
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When it comes to the world around you, the old adage, “You catch more flies with honey, than vinegar”, still holds true.
As an amputee, I have seen this firsthand. When I smile at someone, they smile back. If I say Hello with a smile, I start a conversation and usually educate someone who is curious. And when I ask questions, that I may be afraid to ask (because I don’t want to look like I’m looking for handouts), I usually find someone who has a connection or an “in” to helping me. Rarely do I hear No, but I take the chance anyway, like 2 weeks ago.
I went with my son to pick up his new ski boots, that was all we were going to do, but I started looking around and dreaming of a new pair of skis and boots as mine are over 20 years old. The problem? I only need one ski and one boot, I ski without my prosthetic on and with outriggers. This causes a problem because no one sells singles, so I decided to ask a probing question to the guy helping my son. “Do you ever get a rouge ski come in?” His answer, we sometimes get skies that someone leaves behind after buying new ones, asking if we can get rid of them. And sure enough, Gil, at SkiPro here in Phoenix checked my height and ski level and went in back only to emerge with a beautiful pair of Solomons! He literally said, “Here, they’re yours, they were just going into the dump.” I couldn’t believe my luck… or maybe I just manifested it by smiling and creating a connection, a relationship. I decided to see if boot companies had singles they might have because of manufacturing defects and how could I get in touch, and Gil measured my foot and we had the same boot size. He told me he’d reach out to me later that week.
Tuesday rolled around and he called and said he had 2 pairs for me to try out. I drove straight down to his shop to give them a go. They were perfect!!
We talked while he fitted the liner to my leg and made an insole for my foot, we connected, and I shared my story with him and my joy of getting out there and doing life. He told me about his time he spent skiing and his life up in Washington, and how he’d worked with an adaptive ski program up north and I just thought, “Wow, this was a God wink” The chance that I talked to a guy who knew his stuff, worked with other adaptive skiers in the past AND was my boot size. incredible. But it was about connecting, opening up, accepting that “No” could be the answer, but I might as well ask.
I went in that day to be with my son, and I walked away that week with a “new” pair of skis and boots that I can’t wait to use this season.
Remember, if you never ask, the answer will always be “No”, but taking a chance on people, asking the questions, asking for assistance with a genuine heart, never hurts. Hey, you may even walk away with new skis!
Simple CTA this week.
What have you been wanting to try but don’t have the equipment or resources to get it?
Go out and find connections. Build relationships in that community.
Email people.
Ask the questions. You never know who you’ll meet and where it’ll take you!
Don’t be afraid to try and hear, “No”. Be afraid of never asking and always wondering, “What if”.
You are all warriors, so rise up and get out there.
Have a blessed week and let me know how it’s going!
And as always,
Be Healthy,
Be Happy,
Be YOU!!!
Much love,
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This Illinois, born and raised, girl never knew she had a connection to the ocean.
It’s a beautiful thing to find in yourself so late in life. It was surprising, and breathtaking when it happened.
Many years ago my family moved to Florida for a job. I never thought I would leave Illinois, EVER! All of my family and my husband’s family live there. That was our support system.
We enjoyed Florida a lot while only there for 4 years but I was a mom of two young boys and going to the beach was more of a chore than anything. Keeping an eye on them, making sure they didn’t go in too deep, and then getting sand off of them (which, of course was on every square inch of their bodies when we were done!) before getting into the car.
But, fast forward 11 years and I decided to try my hand at surfing, for the first time ever, and as an amputee. My prosthetist, Randy West, helped me make my dream come true and made me a surf leg the week before our trip to Kauai. I arranged surf lessons and have to say I was a bit nervous at first… I don’t like to fail and I had no idea how this would go seeing as my surf instructor had never given lessons to an amputee before.
Needless to say, I found my joy in surfing from the moment I got on the water.
The ocean was soothing and yet so powerful. The Hawaiians call this power, Mana, and I understood why. While a wave looks so peaceful and ignorer as it moves its way across the ocean to the beach what was going on under the wave was strong, chaotic, and so powerful.
It seemed to me a metaphor for how my life felt now as an amputee.
To me, though, even being on the beach and close to the waves, I can still feel her power and her beauty as I watch and listen.
I find myself breathing to the waves as they come in and crash on the beach. I watch the sun shine through the water and watch the ultimate chaos of sand being churned up and plant life whipping around as the wave pushes forward.
This is my happy place. I find my peace here and long for that feeling often, always excited to go back to the ocean whenever a chance arises.
You may not live near a beach or have the means to get there right now but you can recreate this feeling by finding video footage of the ocean and/or the sounds of crashing waves that you can listen to, right now, in your own home. No, it’s not exactly the same but it can do the trick, if you are in need of finding some calm and center in your life.
The ocean has given me a place to finding healing because it calms me, declutters my head, and asks me to breathe with it.
These actions place me in a better place, mood, and mental space.
You guessed it! This week I want you to find your peace at the ocean.
This may be a literal ocean, if you live near one, or find video and audio of the ocean that you can immerse yourself into in your own home.
Don’t cheat yourself. don’t find a video and then work on laundry or do the dishes. You must find the time and space to stop everything you are doing to center yourself and focus on the present.
Find rhythm in your breath with the ocean. Close your eyes and listen to ALL of the sounds. Relax your body and your mind and just breathe.
If you can just find time everyday this week to give yourself this gift of quieting your life, stopping the momentum, even for just 5 minutes, you will find yourself in a better mood, and in a happy space. You might even find healing of what you are struggling with right now.
Surrender to the ocean, Warriors. You and your body deserve that much.
Have a beautifully blessed week,
And until next time,
Be Healthy,
Be Happy,
Be YOU!!
Much love,
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As 2024 fades away and 2025 takes control let’s take time to look back and reflect on the ups and downs of the past year.
We all have had those moments we achieved some sort of milestone, we have also had those moments we never want to relive.
I’m hopeful that you had some time at the end of last year and the first week of this year to relax, reflect, and refresh yourself. I hope you have gotten into a place where you are ready to rise up again, and accomplish your goals.
As much as I am NOT a fan of New Year’s resolutions, for the fact that the name in of itself let’s people know that it’ll be a bust by February, I AM a fan of creating a new plan, schedule, and goals to work on THROUGHOUT the year ahead. I like the feel of starting over, having a second chance, learning about myself and reaching goals. I love the promise of a new tomorrow, where anything is possible, but without a goal or plan of attack days can roll by into weeks and month, only to leave you feeling like you let yourself down once again.
This year, I want to challenge you to several new things.
First you need to stay positive. Easier said than done, I know, but if you know that hard times will come-that there will be some struggles in your journey, then you can plan for that. While you’re in a good place prepare for the “suck”. How will you handle phantom pains when they hit? How will you decide when you need to talk with your prosthetist about your fit? When do you change your doctor after everything else has failed and you feel in your gut that you need someone else’s help or opinion?
These are all things that can knock the wind out of you and set you back. For some of us it can derail us so badly that we loose our momentum and never get it back, we can get lost in a dark place.
Prepare!
Make a Plan!
Execute that plan TODAY!!!
I am not immuned to this “delay game”. I play it with myself when I’m too tired, too happy, too busy….”I’ll start tomorrow”. You know that game, right?
I’m preaching to myself when I say we need to stop that if we want to achieve, overcome, rise up and become the warriors we were born to be.
This is our year! We will do this together. Accountability is key when you are struggling.
This week I have 2 Call to Actions for you. Don’t ignore these, let’s get after it together. I can hold you accountable, and you can hold me accountable.
First, come up with your word or phase of the year. Something that will keep you focused on your ultimate goal. Keep it short and simple 1-2 words if you can. This becomes your war cry, your mantra, something you will write and speak to yourself everyday for this whole year.
What is your word or phrase?
It could be:
Control
Be Present
Rise Up
Be Epic
Breathe
Walk
Mine is: Charge Forward
Second, join me in a virtual race. The one I have just registered for is called “Reset” by Virtual Pace Series and you can register here
This is a choose your distance challenge. You can do a 5K, 10K, Half or Full Marathon. The beauty of this race is that you can do it on your time and in your location. You can choose your distance and how you complete it. Walk, Run, Hike, Bike, Swim, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you are challenging yourself WHER YOU ARE AT. If you can’t do 5K in one event, then break it down into 2 or 3 days/events. If you have already completed a walking. 10K then maybe you need to try running a 5K or even a 10K.
The point is to have something holding you accountable and a goal set before you. You do you, where You Are At in your journey.
Earn that medal and when you open it, AFTER COMPLETION, you are going to fall in love with challenging yourself.
Join me in 2025, a year in which you achieve your goals and realize the warrior within you is Stronger than you could ever have imagined!
Yes you can!
You will!
You are Stronger enough, brave enough and more than capable.
You are a WARRIOR!!!
I hope you find 2025 to be everything you want and more.
Please join me next week right here as we support one another and build each other up!
And as always,
Be Healthy,
Be Happy,
Be YOU!!
Much love,
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Start Now!
Today!
What are you waiting for?
I know, I know, it’s the holidays. You are busy and can’t find the time.
Me too! But, if you are serious about your goals, and know your ‘WHY’ then get to it.
I am not, nor have I ever been, a fan of “New Years Resolutions”. For a majority of people it is a procrastination technique to get thru the holidays, feel horrible about how you celebrated all holiday season, to join a gym or set goals that are extreme, only to drop them by February or March. Instead of being excited and uplifted by the challenges, you are left feeling defeated and miserable for failing. Who needs that?
Instead, start small now.
No matter what your goals are in life, starting when you are busy just requires taking baby steps to begin a new routine and make it a habit.
If you want to stand and make dinner while wearing your prosthesis then start by wearing it longer each day, or refusing to take it off. Then stand to wash a few dishes. Eventually you’ll be able to maneuver around your kitchen and create a meal and feel proud of your accomplishment….which will inevitably lead to another goal to achieve.
If you want to get or stay physically active and you are struggling to find time then carve out some smaller portions that you CAN commit to and do it. For example, take a short walk around the block after dinner every night, or do some sit ups, push ups and/or planks before bed.
You don’t have to have a gym membership and commit 2-3 hours 4-5 days a week to be active and stay fit, you just need a plan and stick to it (again, to build a positive habit that will carry on thru the holidays and all next year).
Starting today and carrying you through the new year here’s what you need to do to form good habits that will keep you moving forward.
Write down your dreams and goals on paper, don’t keep them secret up in your head.
Decide the most important ons and which ones need to come before others. There probably is a progression of them for example, learning to wear your prosthesis comes before walking a mile in it.
Set deadlines to help keep you on track.
Make smaller steps that you will need to do to hit your goal by your deadline.
Speak positively: I want to go to the gym. I want to go for a walk. Etc, etc.
Find someone you can share your goals with who will push you and hold you accountable (when times get hard and they will, it’s good to have an outside person keeping you on track), and maybe they can join you in setting goals and you can hold each other accountable.
Have fun and know your ‘Why”. Why are you setting this goal? Who are you doing this for?
Setting these things into place will give you a better chance of succeeding at what you want.
As always, you don’t need to go it alone. We all have weak moments and need some help.
I hope you have a blessed holiday season and a happy healthy new year!
This is my last episode of Season 4. I’ll see you next year!
Until then,
And as always,
Be Healthy,
Be Happy,
Be YOU!!!
Much love,
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As we enter the holiday season:
Special gatherings and parties,
Gift giving and making,
Cooking and baking,
And traveling and to see friends and family create a very busy month or two.
As amputees it can have a toll on our bodies as we try to do it all.
If you are new to being an amputee, try to remember that it’s ok to ask and accept help, it’s ok to not have everything perfect and done like you’ve done every year before amputation, and above all else….
Enjoy the moment.
Use your slower pace this year to breathe in the moments.
Watch your children be in awe of the magic of this season.
Entertain yourself with special movies together and listen to Christmas carols.
You’ll be back on your feet in now time and wishing you had sat back and enjoyed the down time.
Don’t allow guilt to over take you. Allow people to step up and be helpful.
Ask when you need assistance. Be careful not to overdue it and hurt yourself. You’ll be more disappointed with the set back than the rest in the moment.
And most of all…
Hope you have a beautiful holiday season making memories and preparing your hearts for the blessings to come.
And as always,
Be Healthy,
Be Happy,
Be YOU!!!
Much love,
PS Pictures of my socket that I promised.
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Let’s discuss Anticipation and Expectations as an amputee.
Every journey is different, every path navigated in life is unique, so why would anyone think that becoming an amputee that we would share the exact same journey?
We will have a similar structure as to what steps come first, second, third, etc, but wWHEN they come, HOW quickly you move from one step to the next, AND when setbacks will happen are all unique to each individual.
Understanding this, and excepting it will help with your success and also your stress.
When we drop the idea that “I want to be doing what Sue is doing.”, or “I want to run like John.” we can embrace our own journey for all its worth, and except the path we are on, which will reduce stressors and help us achieve.
Goal setting and POSITIVE expectations are found to be key to reducing stress and helping us reach success.
Join me for how to go about doing this, and at the end of the podcast check out your Call to Action on what you can be doing right now whether you are awaiting amputation, had an unexpected amputation, or just want to get out of your own way in life so you can find success.
Enjoy this episode, share with those you know who need some motivation and as always,
Be Healthy,
Be Happy,
Be YOU!!!
Much love,